“You Ain’t Sh*t!” And other things your parents never told you…

Carrie Bradshaw: A fiscal schizophrenic???

In browsing the other day, I came across a blog of a woman I frequently read in a magazine. Her blog, A Belle in Brooklyn, is about relationships and ‘real talk’ experiences of a vibrant female living in New York City. Her topic for the day, what intrigued me the most, was called “The ego epidemic“, a review and commentary of an article titled: “The ego epidemic: How more and more of us women have an inflated sense of our own fabulousness” by Lucy Taylor.

Ms Taylor describes an overwhelming trend found amongst females. That we carry and internalize almost delusional, “inflated” images and beliefs of ourselves. When we look in the mirror in the morning, its not the broke, head of over heels in debt, paycheck-to-Monday life that we see looking back at us in the morning but rather a ‘fabulous’ (said in the voice of Samantha Jones), Dior and Chanel-ed out, fierce female of which no man can resist.

The article brings to our attention that “US women are more egocentric and narcissistic than … ever”. That we have trouble accepting criticism or even showing some emotions towards others because we are so into ourselves.  “Am I making you angry by telling you this?”, the author asks. “It figures. Narcissistic or egotistical women do have an overwhelming sense of entitlement and arrogance.”

But what’s the problem here? In a male dominated world where they slap each other on the ass to congratulate each other, consistently promote their achievements and personal agendas, drive fancy, fast cars, and  attribute a personality and name to their man-hood  – what is wrong with an overtly confident woman? (Don’t worry ladies, I got your back). For decades women have stood behind their men, have waited (some are still waiting) for professional promotions and have subdued their natural sexuality all in an attempt to A) Not be called a Bitch, B) Not be called a Whore, and C) Not be called a Bitch!

What’s wrong with a little more than a little self promotion ?

I see one potential problem being confusing ones self-worth with one’s net-worth. Do we know the differences ladies?

Self-Worth vs Net-Worth: The two are NOT one in the same

The author continues on to say:

We have phony rich people (who actually have massive mortgages and piles of debt), phony beauty (via plastic surgery), phony celebrities (via reality TV and YouTube), phony genius students (with grade inflation) and phony friends (with the social networking explosion).

Her point here is that in an attempt to remain consistent, to match ones thoughts and beliefs regarding their self worth with their physical appearances and social status, the material things become a necessity and are no longer just a part of life’s more luxurious side, to be indulged on occasion.

Remember the Jones-es (found here)? They were the ones everyone used to want to be like – an imaginary couple who kicked up envious glances from the neighbors because it was the Jones-es who always had the new, new stuff that no one else could afford. Well, ladies we have created a set of dueling twin Jone-es in our own heads, if you will. They dictate what is appropriate to wear, drive, etc., in the world we’ve created in our heads.

That is fiscal schizophrenia!

Let’s remember that Carrie Bradshaw was at times a free lance writer who lived from check to check charging fantastic shoes at outrageous prices. And lets not comment on the all to entitled Rebecca Bloomwood of Confession of a Shopaholic fame. Don;t get it twisted. Both were glamorous fiscal schizophrenics!

With easy access to credit and the rapid flow of information one can see how you can become misinformed along the way. “Buy now, pay later”. I met a girl once who praised the invention of ‘lay away’ because the TJ Max by her house carried high end name brands. “Lay Awaaayyy!”, she continued on and on. “Lay Away!”

What toll does paying for those boots and purses take on your everyday finances? How can you keep to your normal monetary schedule if you now have to rush to pay off a layaway claim within six weeks?

Now we can’t be ones to dip into other pockets. I don’t know too much about what she has going on in her purse. But in making a diagnosis off of the sole reason she’s placing items on lay away, only to return every two weeks to make a small deposit on those items, I’d have to say she’s suffering from a case of fiscal schizophrenia.

Watch out now, it could become contagious.

This isn’t a post about layaway (excuse the small rant). But you can understand what I’m getting out here.  While I slightly disagree with the overall theme of the article, I connect with the idea of an inflated self worth leading to an out of whack, internal battle with one’s net worth. Your parents may have told you over and over again how great, awesome, special and pretty you are and that you deserve a pony, car, rich man, plastic surgery, and a great life, but did they ever tell you about the true costs of attaining those things?

Think about it.

Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-1213212/The-ego-epidemic-more-inflated-sense-fabulousness.html##ixzz10p8AItBV. Photo found here.


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